Sunday, 10 November 2013

Scorpion Nature

There is a fable about a scorpion and a frog. The scorpion wishes to cross a pond but cannot find a way to safely cross. So the scorpion approaches the frog and asks, “Frog, my friend, would you please take me across the pond?” The frog replies, “I would very much like to help you but what if you sting me during the trip? I will die.” The scorpion says, “Why would I do that? If I sting you, you’ll die but I will die too.” The frog feels reassured and says, “Okay, that sounds reasonable. I do not mind carrying you across the pond. You can jump up.” The scorpion jumps on the back of the frog and the frog jumps into the water and begins to swim.  Everything is going well until, halfway across the pond, the scorpion stings the frog. The frog, deep in pain, cries out to the scorpion as he begins to drown, “Why did you sting me? Now I’ll die, and you are going to die too.” The scorpion replies, “I know that , but I cannot help myself. It is my nature.”

Everyone has a scorpion nature. We all do and say things that fail to serve anyone, including ourselves, but yet we do them regardless. It is our nature.

We can change our nature. I have students who dwell on the negatives. Rather than concentrate on what they need to do to succeed, they resent the success they see others achieve.  Careful attention to the words we choose to use and the  emotions we choose to release can change the way we think and the way we interpret the world. They key is choice. It is always ours.

“Smile, breathe, and go slowly.” - Thich Nhat Hanh (b. 1926)

Sunday, 3 November 2013

Inertia

I am an idealist and I believe in the inherent goodness found in everyone. We all want the world to be a better place. More kindness, more compassion, and less suffering. We may have different ideas on how to achieve these objectives but it is my belief that we all want the same things.

Politics have never been something that interests me nor have politicians ever held my respect. My lack of interest would never be classified as apathetic. I have always cared deeply about social issues and I am aware that, without government support, many issues cannot be adequately addressed. Over the past several years I have taken a more hands-on approach to politics as one of my mastery goals. I’ve educated myself and actively participated in elections to help facilitate the change I believe is needed. I have learned a few things on the way.

People care but don’t feel their vote really counts. Yes, they do understand that every vote counts but when their elected representative is expected to represent the wishes of his party leadership over the wishes of his constituents, our vote do not mean much. We basically have government without representation. People do care but until the politicians actually represent something worth voting for, people cannot be expected to believe their vote actually counts for anything,

What is the answer? I am not sure. I recognized long ago that most political parties are pretty much the same. They govern to meet their own needs and to placate those who put them in power but they do not really address the social issues that most of us care about. Their primary mandate is to keep the economy growing at its unsustainable rate and hope like heck the day of reckoning does not come during their watch. We’re all complicate in the cycle of indifference this creates with the voting public. As long as we’re feeding our family and the kids have the newest iPhones, we become quite complacent with how things are and accept a certain level of mediocrity.

Back in 2006 I made a huge mistake. I had the idea that if everyone held the current government accountable to keep the promises that got them elected, eventually the system would work the way it was designed. I voted for Stephen Harper, not because he promised change, but because he was change. I figured if he turned out to be like all the rest we could just vote him out and begin anew with another guy. Politicians, more than anyone else, know how their bread gets buttered. They will do whatever it takes to get elected and if telling the truth and keeping promises is what people want, they will adapt. On paper my idea is sound but what I did not factor in is the untold damage a person like Harper can do while he is in power. Nor did I expect it to be this difficult to get everyone on the same page to get him out of power.

Stephen Harper was change but not the change he promised nor was he the change we needed. The damage he has done to democracy in this country is so massive, it will not be fixed in my children’s children’s lifetime. Harper promised to reform the senate. Not only did he not reform it but the very senators he appointed are behind the scandal that promises to force the reforms he promised seven years ago. To add insult to injury, Harper is now blaming the opposition parties for the lack of senate reform despite his promise that if we gave him a majority government the opposition could not block him in any way. Well we gave him his majority and he is still claiming he is impotent.

Despite seven years of broken promises, despite running up the biggest deficit in Canadian history, Harper continues to enjoy the support he needs to hold on to power. I really thought the senate scandal would be enough to show people his true colours but now I am not so sure. Harper has continued to contradict himself week by week and has been proven to have been telling one lie after another but listening to people at the Conservative convention this weekend in Calgary gush about his integrity makes one wonder what someone has to do to get fired  by that party.

Our parliamentary system is one of the most democratic on paper. In practice, it does not seem that way and under Harper it has become a virtual dictatorship that is going to be very difficult to usurp. Those who are turning a blind eye because they support Harper’s ideals will someday regret it when the next guy in power does not conform to their ideals but still enjoys the unbridled power that Harper has put in place for the ruling party. What goes around . . .

“Leaders must wake people out of inertia. They must get people excited about something they’ve never seen before, something thad does not yet exist.” - Rosabeth Moss Kanter (b.1943)

Friday, 25 October 2013

Russell Brand

It is impossible for me not to be a huge Russell Brand fan after this. I admire people whose passion comes out as clearly as his does. If we all were as well versed about issues we care about, public apathy would not be so prevalent.
"I recognize that I have the ability to be selfish, but I also recognize that you can't be happy if you only care about yourself at the expense of other people." - Russell Brand (b. 1975)

Tuesday, 22 October 2013

A Single Act, Many Ripples

This is one of the most inspiring things I have ever seen. Being in the right place at the right time is one thing but making the most of an opportunity is when magic happens.


"Life well spent is long." - Leonardo Da Vinci (1452 - 1519)

Sunday, 20 October 2013

Connecting the Dots


As a teacher, it can be frustrating when a student continues to let opportunities pass them by because they are too busy dealing with their own frustrations brought about by missed opportunity.

I tend to have more questions than I have answers and I usually get more things wrong than I get right but there are a few things that I know to be absolutes when it comes to mastery.

  • There are more opportunities in every moment in every day than you can count.
  • No one has control over you that you have not given them. 
  • Everyone has something to offer.
  • Small things add up to big things.
  • Gratitude is key.

My advice:

  • Take responsibility for your situation and change it to your liking. And for everyone's sake, stop pointing fingers and stop whining. 
  • Be mindful and take instruction whether it is offered or not. Everyone is a potential mentor. It is easier to build upon someone else's mistakes than having to make your own. 
  • Stick to your commitments. You can only break so many promises before you lose all credibility. You must be able to trust yourself or future commitment is pointless.
  • Learn to show gratitude for what you have. While things may not be pristine and perfect, they are still pretty freaking awesome. Open your eyes and be thankful.
Lastly, follow the Black Belt Success Cycle:

  • Set a goal 
  • Have a plan (and success coach)
  • TAKE CONSISTENT ACTION
  • Review your progress
  • Review your goals


"The truth knocks on the door and you say, go away, I'm looking for the truth, and it goes away. Puzzling." - Robert M. Pirsig (b. 1928)

Sunday, 13 October 2013

Thanksgiving


A small portion of what I have to be thankful for:

I live in a privileged country where war and the atrocities associated with it remain primarily an abstraction for most. While I have moments of want, I have never been in need.

I share a lifestyle with a bunch of amazing people that supports a healthy mind and a healthy body. I live a life of consequence and that ensures I will never have to sacrifice quantity for quality or vice versa.

As I continue to refine my practice, my mindfulness allows me to witness more miracles in a single moment than I can count.

My life is blessed by people who love me and inspire me to be a better person every day.

"I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose." - Woody Allen (B. 1935)

Sunday, 6 October 2013

Evolution


I spent a lot of time cleaning out my email this week. I tend to hold a few gigabytes of data in my mailboxes and every so often I get rid of old, no longer relevant, messages. Mixed in with the soon to be deleted bunch are always a few gems that can be inspiring to revisit.

Change is constant. Reading old correspondences can be a real eye opener to just how much I have changed. I have dedicated the majority of my life to mastery but my focus has never been as intense as it has been these past five years. Nor has change, and that's change for the better, been more prevalent.

Reading my old emails remind me that I am evolving. Everyday I go to bed a different person than I was when I woke up that morning. It's up to me to fill my day with things that ensure I am evolving into the person I want to be.

“We change, whether we like it or not.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 - 1882)